Women In Love !

When women love they make the person their religion, which is not wrong but unfair. We don’t even realise how much we have invested in that person. Okay, so the problem starts when the person starts to consume you. It’s good and healthy as long as you are equally reciprocated.

But despite everything why put pressure on someone to the extent it might choke them? I have always been a devotee lover and the moment someone slightly shifts their attention my world crumbles down.

I used to ask myself, “ Why am I too much? Why is my love too much? How can my love choke somebody?” There’s a scene in Fleabag (a series on Prime) where she questions herself, after losing a friend, where would she put all her love now?

I could empathise with her because I had difficulty living if there wasn’t a vessel to put my love into. It might sound romantic but now that I think of it’s unhealthy. If I am not capable of being the vessel for my love, sanity, and integrity, it will always feel overwhelming for someone else, simply because I perceive myself as too much.

Women have, perhaps for generations, been conditioned to prioritize others over themselves, whether as wives, daughters, mothers, sisters, or lovers. It's ingrained in our system to ensure everything runs smoothly, often at the expense of our well-being. I've fallen into that pattern too, which I now realize is fundamentally wrong. We've been doing ourselves a disservice all along.

Why make someone else your religion and suffer? Be your religion. Love yourself first. Embrace yourself. Strive, both professionally and personally, for your fulfilment. The moment you shift the axis to yourself you’ll be happy like never before. No amount of love that we seek from others can give us the happiness that we will, the moment you start embracing and loving yourself.

Have you ever felt so happy that you got goosebumps ? You’ll feel it in your bones.